Requirements to Attain Spiritual Intimacy In Marriage

couple-reading-scripturesSpiritual intimacy is an unfailing love that has the ability to create a path to admiration, appreciation, and reverence. According to John Fisher, a successful marriage is not dependent on finding the right man or woman rather the ability of both mates to attune to the actual person they certainly recognize they are espoused to. To be spiritually intimate, couples need to;

  1. Live according to the standards set forth in 1 Corinthians 13:4-13,” Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends… And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love” (NRSVCE). This scriptural passage simply informs us that love does not flop; rather it boosts faith, hope, and love. It is evident that being spiritually intimate help couples grow into spiritually experienced unified entity that are willing to look beyond their male/female variances and gain knowledge and growth from these unique variations. For instance, a spiritually experienced couple will not take offense to or misconstrue the calling on the grounds of male/female variances for husbands to love their wives and wives to be submissive to their husbands as stated in Colossians 3:18-19. A spiritually experienced couple would understand that both calling entail love, humility, and obedience not a show of dominance and defiance.
  2. Leave, cling, and intertwine to each other as clearly written in Genesis 2:24 that, “therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh” (NRSVCE). Leaving ones father and mother implies a mental, monetary, and physical departure. When we cling to each other, we move our key allegiance to our spouse and become conjoined in all things. Becoming intertwined to each other involves a sexual and emotional union. Becoming one flesh also symbolizes Christ love for the church. It demonstrates the scale of love that a husband should show his wife as expressed in Ephesians 5:25 “husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (NRSVCE). Husbands are called to selflessly protect their wives from internal and external forces irrespective of any associated discomfort like Christ exemplified on the cross of Calvary.

The presence of spiritual Intimacy in a union makes the marriage God’s harbor. Any marriage built on God’s solid foundation will surely weather any storm. Spiritual intimacy allows couples to learn how to sacrifice for each other, show appreciation towards each other, and suffer together as a personification of love.


Allender, D. (2015). Coaching couples in spiritual intimacy.