Effective Listening Strategies for Premarital/Marital Relationships


The importance of communication in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. The ability to listen carefully, learn to make adaptations, avoid changing one another, and expand the way a person listens makes communication more effective. However, a communication concept that has had the greatest impact on me is the importance of listening. Listening is when another person is talking to you, you are not thinking about what you are going to say when they are done talking rather you are totally tuned into the other individual. The implication of this description is that a listener is totally connected to the speaker. Therefore, one can accurately state that communication is nonexistent without listening.

Men and women are created differently and their communication patterns differ also. Every so often couples are faced with mistranslations regarding the messages they send across. In other to avoid these mistranslations, listening is vital. Couples should listen to themselves in other to discover how they actually speak. A tape recorder can be used as a communication tool to capture both the content and tone of the message being conveyed .This is essential because people have the capability of taking a sentence and giving it multiple interpretations or messages. Consequently, being able to listen to what one has said in a recording will help make changes where needed. It helps both the listener and speaker communicate with accuracy and not on misconstruction. Couples should listen and give each other full undivided attention. This entails putting down what one is doing which then signals to the other person that they are significant and valuable.

Furthermore, listening involves being able to accurately restate the content or substance and feeling of a message. This prevents misconstructions, assumptions, and mistranslations which often create tension in relationships. Without listening, there is no communication. A marriage without communication loses life. For that reason, it is important for couples to work on their listening skills in other to connect with each other and begin to work as a single union. When couples work as a single unified font life is restored into the union.

What other listening strategies have been effective in your relationship(s)?



Wright, N. H. (2015). Coaching couples in good communication